Alison Steedman is the editor at Dating & Hookup. She lives in Los Angeles with her boyfriend and their histrionic cat, Charles Dickens, where she still carries on a nostalgic and long-distance love affair with her 20's in Brooklyn, NY. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram @yosteedman, and you can also send her your writing at [email protected], both of which make her very happy.
Obviously, everyone in the world instantly now knows this fact – thanks social media. So, what what to say about it?
How entertaining! I like baby news and prince / princess fairytales as much as the next person. I like pretty pictures and following with sometimes-rapt attention the lives of people who are far more privileged than myself. And believe me, I’ll follow it…if for no other reason than the fact that I owe the royal pair. They helped my grandmother understand that living together before you were married didn’t mean the loss of my honor / end of my life.
I’m a little weirded out! What’s this fascination with famous people’s procreation? Fantasy wrapped up in a pretty media package? Is it the elevation of the quotidian? (Normal couples have babies every day…but so do Royal People!) Does it allow us to experience all the good things about pregnancy (Photoshopping, designer maternity clothes, royal trust funds) without any of the bad (financial strain, sleeplessness, tummy flab). Living vicariously through the Dutchess of Cambridge = pretty fun.
Construction worker to me while eating an ice cream cone on Varick Street, Manhattan, 2004…
“Hey Sugar, lick this!”
Guy in car at a stoplight to me as I stand on the sidewalk, waiting in line to vote in the 2008 primaries, Brooklyn…
“Hillary Clinton is a lezbo and told me she thinks you’re beautiful!”
Four dudes in pick-up truck to 15 year-old, mortified me while trail-riding my horse along the road in rural NC…
“Yeah Baby, ride it! Neighhhh! Giddy-up! Slap it!”
Homeless-looking guy to me after watching me hug my father goodnight after meeting him for dinner, Charlotte, NC, 2005…
Posting videos like this is basically all the “editing” I have left in me before the Thanksgiving holiday. So, you’re totally welcome for that.
In conversations regarding the rampant marriages of my peers lately, it is common for me to hear this (Is it wizened or bitter?) rejoinder from the older generation. “Just wait,” they laugh. “You’ll have the first wave of marriages, then the first wave of divorces, and then the second wave of marriages.”
Tonight, I take a red-eye not only back to NYC, but back to a peer group – I realize as I make plans with a bunch of couples – that is almost completely comprised of the married or co-habitating. There are a few exceptions: my almond-eyed, relief-work, never-in-one-place-for-long friend Abiol; my cerebral, artful (and slightly younger) writer-friend, Zinzi; and then at last, the few sundry ex-boyfriends-turned-buddies who, clearly, after dating me they realized they could do no better. (Um, right…)
A survey…reported that about a third of men have imagined sexual encounters with more than 1,000 different women. In our minds, at our best, we are not Einstein but Warren Beatty. Swami’s studies support the concept of dynamic attractiveness—the idea that no matter our age or body preference, looks are but a single line of code in a complex algorithm of attraction, alongside others defining sense of humor, core beliefs, personality, and more.
Psychology Today breaks down the evolving and mutable nature of male desire, aka the science of T & A. It’s pretty objective and interesting, actually.
This photo of President Obama embracing his wife set social media records today (and late last night) as being the most re-tweeted and and shared photo on the internet, ever.
On Twitter, the President’s tweet topped Justin Bieber’s record of 223,424 re-tweets when he tweeted the picture above with the phrase”Four more years.” As of this morning it had been retweeted 718,476 times.
His duplicate Facebook post was liked 3,594,189 by people, and now stands as the most liked Facebook photo ever.
Friends, did you know the New York Times wrote about us recently? We. Are. Flattered. And. Delighted.
Via 33 Things You Learn Hanging Around Mindy Kaling.
“She [Mindy Kaling] thinks the notion of guys being intimidated by women, by the way, is kind of bullshit. “I feel like I’ve met so many girls who say that: ‘Oh, he’ll be too intimidated.’ And I’m like, ‘No, you’re just terrible. That’s why they wouldn’t want to date you. It’s not because of some fake-y thing like intimidation.’ I’m supposed to appear less successful than I am? Yeah, it’s total crap.
Jessica Valenti’s Atlantic piece on the assumption that women want children and are fulfilled by motherhood is the kind of good, smart read that also gives me nightmares.
He says, ‘I want you to meet someone who is very important to me.’
So I dust the flour off my dress and follow him outside. He leads me to the door of the machinery shed and makes a soft clicking noise. A shiny little face pokes out from beneath the corrugated iron roof: a squirrel with sharp eyes and a persnickety tilt of the head.
Bon Iver feeds him a walnut. ‘I call him Walnut,’ he says. ‘And he knows all my secrets.’
I’ve been thinking about Amy Poelher a lot lately (Ask Amy!). And, by extension, about how relying on other people in a creative, professional and personal space is so wildly important. There’s a real girl group in Hollywood / Writerland right now. Films like Bridesmaids, TV shows like Parks & Recreation books like Tina Fey’s Bossypants, they represent a new kind of creative cult, one that comes from the emotional accessibility and sturdy honesty of their work.
Tuesday night I went to a screening of The Master (Oh, my…!), and Maya Rudolph was there with her husband, Paul Thomas Anderson. For the duration of the after party, I had a strong desire to go speak to her / siphon some of her lady-strength in a full-body hug, but was sensitive to the fact that a conversation like that could have ended up horrendously one-sided, on a good day.
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