Alison Steedman is the editor at Dating & Hookup. She lives in Los Angeles with her boyfriend and their histrionic cat, Charles Dickens, where she still carries on a nostalgic and long-distance love affair with her 20's in Brooklyn, NY. You can follow her on Twitter and Instagram @yosteedman, and you can also send her your writing at [email protected], both of which make her very happy.
These lyrics come from real dudes’ OKCupid profiles, as seen on @dudesonokcupid.
Maybe the most amazing long-distance, techno-romance story ever over at The Hairpin. From an East Coaster who fell in love with West Coast guy, nice work, Molly Taft!
A new study by the European Journal of Psychology reveals that the more attractive people are, the more likely they’re accepting of others.
In the study, 119 people were rated on their attractiveness by an independent panel. Then, that sample group was then given a Personal Orientation Inventory (POI) test in which they rated their levels of self-actualization in categories like inner-directiveness, sociability and self-acceptance and capacity for intimate contact. People who were rated as more attractive scored significantly higher in 7 of the 12 POI categories.
Researches believe this results from a halo effect. More attractive people are perceived “to be warmer, stronger, more poised, flexible in their thoughts, mentally healthy, intelligent, socially skilled and more successful in their careers than those considered physically unattractive.” Because attractive people are treated as though they have certain qualities, they often grow to posses those qualities.
As we’re all too aware by now, it’s been a raw decade for young Americans. The job market still has a giant, recession-shaped crater in it. A college degree is more expensive yet more essential than ever. Wages are stagnant.
All of this adds up to a single sad possibility, according to the New York Times’ Annie Lowrey: Today’s twenty- and thirty-somethings may never end up as rich and financially secure as their parents…
A frightening/ fascinating piece in The Atlantic.
Celebrated on March 14th, Steak and Blowjob Day is a holiday for men, celebrated the month after Valentine’s Day — a holiday for women.
You know, she can really sing. Also, how did this manage to be sincere?
Following up from our last discussion on intimacy disorders with renowned expert Robert Weiss, we ask about the forces potentially impacting intimacy disorders today, including technology and a prevalent “hook-up culture” among Gen Y women and men. It has been argued that today’s hook-up culture may actually be good for women as an extension of our greater rights and freedoms, but that with it comes the complications of living in a “post-dating world,” as well as the frustration from encountering lingering social stigmas against women enjoying nontraditional romantic relationships. As Robert explains, technology has lifted many of the barriers to intimacy disorders, particularly for men, and that women are increasingly able to compartmentalize or forestall their intimate needs while they focus on other aspects of their life.
Dating & Hookup: What has contributed to the greater prevalence of intimacy disorders in our society today?
Robert Weiss (RW): Pathology is not arrived at because something is available. Just because alcohol is available doesn’t mean everyone will become an alcoholic. I have people who worry that the availability of porn from a young age will make men dysfunctional, and that the ready accessibility of casual relationships is going to turn us into a society of sex addicts. That’s not the case.
Because, okay, wait? You mean since 1979 there has been a way to simply, cheaply and impermanently sterilize men with zero hormonal side effects? But it’s not available because of 1) misogyny and 2) big pharma can’t make money off of a simple process that cost $100 every ten years? Did you just tell me that, Internet?
Indeed, Internet did totally just tell me this. The drug is called Vasagel or RISUG.
The 30-year struggle (AHHHH) to bring Vasagel to market was first chronicled in this fascinating and detailed Wired piece (Warning: includes informative yet balls-tastic video.) that ran this time last year. And this week, there has been a growing buzz about Vasalgel after an article in TechCitement went viral because animal testing on the drug started in America in March. Yay. Currently, it’s in the last phase of clinical trials in India, where the drug was first invented, meaning it may be on the market (at least there) in two years.
I want to say here that I wish everyone in Hollywood could be Jennifer Lawrence. But then if everyone in Hollywood was Jennifer Lawrence, who would she have to make subtle and charming fun of?
When the Washington Post decided, in January of 2013, to run a story about feminists’ disputes over Michelle Obama’s time as first lady, it ran in that magazine’s Style section.
In The New York Times in March 2012, Sarah Hepola’s profile of Gloria Steinem—complete with discussion of where the next feminist icon like her might be—ran in “Fashion & Style.”
And when the young (male) publisher of Jacobin magazine was profiled in the Times’s Books section in January, women editors and publishers at The New Inquiry protested—when their similarly intellectual publication was featured in the Times the previous fall, they had been in “Fashion & Style.”
“This is the story all about how I moved to Hollywood to get shut down.”
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