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In this week’s edition, an awesome guy who happens to be living with his equally awesome girlfriend offers up some advice on techno-romance and once-in-a-lifetime romance. He also calls some guys douches (we concur!). dah Guy, take it away…
1) I’ve been ambiguously texting with this new guy, and sometimes I’m the last one to respond in our text exchanges. Is it okay for me to be the one to start up the next text convo anyway? Do guys even notice “who wrote last?” Do I have to wait for him to start a new convo, or am I just being totally paranoid and overthinking it? For the record, he lives out of town, and I think that’s why we’ve been texting so much.
If a guy likes you, then he doesn’t give a damn who texted last or first. Guys actually care more about how you treat them than about the sequence of a text train. And if they do care about stuff like that, they’re playing games.
So, play games if you’re into that (meaning maybe this is just a Hot Sex Prospect, and you don’t care if your communications are honest in the least). But if you’re looking to have a real relationship, it can’t start with you obsessing over if and when you can actually talk to the guy.
Be yourself. Say what you want to. Don’t worry so much.
2) As a guy, what does it feel like when you’ve met The One? Or how do you expect it to feel, if it hasn’t happened yet?
THE ONE is a myth – mass-market romance novel bullcrap. Guys are just into girls. That’s usually it.
Treat your guy well, and you may end up being THE ONE simply because he stays with you. After all, isn’t that what THE ONE is? Just the person you stick with because it fits? He cleans your cat’s litter box, and you cook him dinner. It works. You make each other happy. You respect each other. You find each other mutually cute and sexy.
THE ONE is a lot more pragmatic of a concept than people usually think. In a way, it becomes romantic by nature of its pragmatism.
3) When you first meet a girl, do you immediately rank her in your mind from 1 to 10? Or do you just think a simple “Yes, she’s hot” or “No, she’s not?”
If a guy is immediately rating every woman he meets on a 1-10 scale, then he’s probably a douche. No, he is definitely a douche. Most guys just think in terms of do I or don’t I like her. Rating systems are for FHM or Maxim (BTW, if you see a guy reading this and he’s not 14, run away).
For the record, are the reasons you’re attracted to men so simplistic? I’m pretty sure they’re not.
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