This week’s dah guy is a self-described “terminally single workaholic.” Depending on the types of men that you ladies out there are dealing with, this might make him the best guy to tackle your post-dating quandaries…or the worst! You can decide after reading his thoughts on second chances, online dating turn-offs and those most tricky of sexual adventures – threesomes.

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Question #1: About three months ago, I met a guy and we spent two weeks consistently texting, hanging out, making out, etc. It seemed to be going well, but then he started pulling the Slow Fade during Week 3. Now, I’m not a desperate girl, and I refuse to chase any guy who isn’t into me, so I just kind of dropped it after a few delayed or ignored texts, and that was that. But just this week, he texted me again to tell me that he read this book and it made him think of me and how am I doing, blah blah blah. I texted him back (a little coolly, I might add), but he was receptive and started talking about how we should get together and catch up. So here’s my question: should I entertain this possibility again? Why would a guy who pulled the Slow Fade show back up months later? Should I assume that he’s a jerk and cut it off now, or should I hang out with him again and see what happens? I don’t want to be an idiot here, but also, sometimes life gets in the way and who knows that happened last time, right?

Right! Give a dude a chance to explain. If his explanation for the missed texts or calls and the 10-week lapse sounds insincere or dodgy, then whatever – I think it’s worth the free drink to find out for sure.

Question #2: My boyfriend has recently started hinting at the possibility of having a threesome with another girl. Yay or nay? I’m not automatically opposed to it, but I’ve heard that it’s a guaranteed relationship ruiner.

Not being opposed to it and being into it are two completely different things.  For me, regarding stuff like that, if everyone’s not into it, then no one is.

If you have already thought about it, then, who did you picture? If you really can’t imagine it happening, then maybe you’re just not comfortable with it. Figure out how you really feel about it, and then decide off of that.

Question #3: I just joined an online dating site three weeks ago because my love life was non-existent, and so far, it sucks. I feel like I should be getting more messages from guys, but I’m not! What could I be doing wrong? I can’t help thinking that there’s some big red flag in my profile – any thoughts on what that might be? Is there anything in a girl’s online dating profile – other than bad photos (mine are cute!) – that would totally turn you off?

(To preface, I’ve never done online dating stuff before…so I probably have a rather uninformed perspective on this particular question. But I’m a guy, so I’ll weigh in anyway!)

I would think that a dating profile should read like a driver’s license…WITH a couple additions…is that totally lame?  Age, height, weight, hair color, eye color, general location, interests/dis-interests, and a couple photos of you doing what you love with people you love…and that’s it.  It’s all about face-to-face, one-on-one chemistry anyway. Until you get to that point, what more do you need to know?

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