The perfect Accessory in your dah usually knows just what to say and how to act to make everyone love him. That’s what makes him your go-to +1 for weddings, dinner parties and Saturday morning trips to the Farmers’ Market. But how good is he at giving honest, straight, hard hitting advice?
Well, we don’t know about your Accessory – but Jess’s Accessory is always willing to weigh in on post-dating issues and has a knack for keeping it short and simple. So of course, we had to send him YOUR questions about decoding ambiguous Friend-Non-Dates, timing the speed of your text messages, and getting to be a fly on the wall during Guy Time.
To submit your questions for next week’s column, email us at [email protected] with “Ask A dah Guy” in the subject line!
Ask A dah Guy – Jess’s Accessory!
1) I’ve gone out for drinks three times with the same guy (a friend-of-a-friend). We always have a great time, but the nights end with a hug – he hasn’t made a move yet. Should I assume that he’s just shy? Or does he just see me as a friend?
This depends a lot on the context of your hang-outs.
If it’s just the two of you, and there is a good connection and some flirting going on, then he’s probably just shy and doesn’t know how you view him. Therefore, he doesn’t want to cross any boundaries and upset you. He’s into you.
But if he talks about ordinary things, and keeps his eyes on the game or on other girls or elsewhere, then he probably just sees you as a friend.
2) Do guys ever talk to each other about dating stuff?
Definitely – but only if we’re really into a particular girl and care about making a good impression. Even then, the conversation usually revolves around pre-gaming before the date, and going over what to do and what not to do, as well as discussing different scenarios and how best to act in a given situation.
3) Do men really lose interest if you text them back too quickly? I’m so tired of playing games – but I’m tired of being single too!
No. We definitely want to know that you’re into us. But keep in mind, we also like a good chase.
When it comes to texting, answer at your own leisure – but at the same time, know that treating a text like an IM can get a bit annoying. Being there for our every beck and call just makes it too easy. Guys always value something more if we feel like we have to work for it a little.
Ladies – submit questions for next week’s Ask A dah Guy by tweeting @jessmassa.
Jess is the co-creator of Dating & Hookup, alongside her childhood best friend Becky Lynch, and is the author of the book - yep! - Dating & Hookup. She never tires of hearing your post-dating stories. She wants you to enjoy your love life, and is full of advice on how to do so.
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