In New York, there are more post-dating stories than there are neighborhoods. The official estimate is about eight million, and that’s not counting the outer boroughs. Everyone’s got one. For all the Carrie Bradshaws out there, there is always a Samantha, and for all the illusive Mr. Big types, a girl can always count on finding a Steve or a Harry or a Smith Jerrod on a good day. Which brings me to my point: for all the talk of coupling in our modern stratosphere, WTF?! is up with all the single beautiful people here? Is it just that we have too many options?
A very beautiful (and very single) friend has a fondness for saying, “I’ve got too much to give it up on a trip to the Supermarket.” WTF?! Without delving into the practical implications of this statement, New Yorkers find it hard to settle for (or rather with) someone when this city has a crazy amount of “potentials” waiting to buy you a drink at the bar. But, don’t take my word for it; I have data!
When we launched our real estate startup, NabeWise, the basic idea was to help people explore our fair city and give locals the platform to tell the world about their neighborhoods. What we found was that neighborhoods that were rated as the top for “singles” were consistently the same as those rated as the top for “beautiful people.”
Take SoHo, for example. The neighborhood is ranked #1 for Singles and #2 for Beautiful People. Coincidence? A very gorgeous friend and a long-time SoHo resident went on a date last weekend with someone she met at a local bookstore (browsing the contemporary art section no less!). In her words, “Cute, smart and into art?! Girl, where do I sign up?!” It was all going well…until her date mentioned that he lives in Queens. Deal breaker. She is not into long distance relationships. Crazy? Yes. Happens all the time? Absolutely.
Still don’t believe it? Just take a look at the Meatpacking District, which is ranked #3 for Singles and #1 for Beautiful People. It’s no secret that this neighborhood is awash in nightlife, prowling singles and couples who wish they were the prowling singles. You can indulge in flirt Olympics here on any night of the week.
And who can forget Chelsea? The nabe is ranked #2 for Singles and Beautiful People. Chelsea is the epicenter of male gorgeousness, where after a few drinks Mr. Beautiful approaches you with, “You’re gorgeous!” to which you reply “Are you gay?!” You know the answer (yes?). No surprise here.
Who would have thought that this city’s best-looking residents are also the single ones? But this sort of makes sense doesn’t it? Beautiful singles have options and lots of them. Maybe the problem is that beautiful people just can’t choose. Committing to a relationship means taking on a whole new set of worries, problems and G-d knows what baggage. Who has the time?
So on any given Friday night, it seems that the happy, liberated, devil-may-care, singles of New York City get mildly depressed, text their friends, and choose some rowdy destination bar where not having a date (or a relationship) flows out of your mind just as quickly as alcohol flows in. And the question remains, are beautiful people just meant to be single?
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