Being in love is a wonderful thing. Sometimes it feels like you’re just perfect for each other. And maybe you are. But make sure you know what the signs are. Because to quote 500 Days of Summer, Just because she likes the same bizzaro crap you do doesn’t mean she’s your soul mate.” It’s deeper stuff. Here are 5 signs you’re perfect for each other.
When you fight, you emerge from the fight better for it. You don’t tear each other down, you don’t ruin each other — you fight fair. Couples are guaranteed to fight. It’s all about how you fight and what you learn from the fight that really matters.
And sometimes, they need space for no particular reason; it’s not that they’re mad at you or you’re fighting, they just need to chill on their own for a bit. You both can recognize when it’s time to give the other one a breather, and you’re not personally hurt by it. Sometimes people just need to be on their own for a little bit.
This is maybe the cheesiest thing I’ll ever admit to, but Dr. Phil once said something like one of his jobs was to make his wife’s day better, and I really loved that. We want to leave people in a better place than when we found them. I’m not saying you should be a doormat. I’m saying, you care more about the other person happy than you care about treating yourself. It doesn’t mean that you throw away all of your pleasures and hopes and dreams — just that you’re not selfish. For example, maybe he wants to watch a really stupid movie you’d never choose — you’ll watch it anyway, because it means so much to him, and he’d do the same for you.
I firmly believe that a sense of humor is crucial in any healthy relationship. Maybe you have different tastes; he prefers dry, witty humor and you crack up when someone gets hit in the crotch. As long as you can laugh together and make each other laugh, you’re good. It’s also important to know when they need a laugh and when they need you to be serious. That’s something I learned from Mrs. Doubtfire, and I’m only half-joking.
It sounds so clicheé, but the most harmonious relationships really do have a yin and yang feel to them. One of you is super hyper, the other super chill. Or maybe one of you is prone to panicking while the other calms you down. Whatever your dynamic is, if it’s a good balance of two different personalities, you’ve got a good shot at being together for a long time. We all need balance somewhere in our lives, and a relationship is a great place for it.
What are your signs?
Photo: Paul Newman with wife Joanne Woodward by Mark Kauffman, via LIFE photo archives for Google.
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles. She has a blog, Apocalypstick. In addition to Dating & Hookup she also writes for Hello Giggles, The Frisky, Thought Catalog, and Genlux Magazine. Her book, I Forgot To Be Famous, is out now. You can follow her on twitter @apocalypstick. Her favorite pastime is eating and drinking and sleeping and then eating again.
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