I have a new guilty pleasure, and it’s not one of the many awful reality shows on TV. It’s a blog/website/art project from two Brooklyn-based designers called 40 Days of Dating. The site is very well done, pretentious, and I just can’t get enough. Here is the premise in their words:
What do you do when you’re tired of the prospect of dating? Two good friends with opposite relationship problems found themselves single at the same time. As an experiment, they dated for 40 days.
Obviously, I am hooked on this idea. There were a few strict rules for the project that included seeing each other every day, weekly couples’ therapy sessions, and journaling the experience each day. Every day from July 10th – August 22nd, Monday through Friday, they release a journal entry from both Jessica and Tim. The journal entries are in chronological order and they mirror each other, so you get two sides of the story for every day of the project. The actual 40 days happened back in April/May, so it’s still a mystery whether or not they are actually together. Bachelor anyone?
I binge read the first eighteen days or so, and have been DYING over this one-a-day bullshit. I am totally on board for the Netflix culture of binge consumption, and now that I have to wait every day for a new post, I am even more invested. Well played Jess and Tim.
Here’s the thing. I basically hate both of them; or to be more fair, the caricatures of themselves they are sharing. I understand the Internet is more narrow a scope than we think and these people are definitely more three-dimensional than they are being portrayed. In real life, I do not hate these absolute strangers. I think these are both very talented people, who most assuredly have redeeming qualities. But for the sake of this post, I hate them, and that’s OK because they decided to put their lives on the Internet for me to judge. They are both vapid and awful in their own unique ways. She over-analyzes everything, and he is basically… A DICK, who is making minimal efforts to reform.
However…I am still rooting for both of them! I want a happy ending from these two nutbags!
Why is that? Do we all just love a happy ending? Do we want love to actually prevail over all? I think so.
I think we all want a relationship to work out, and especially with these two, I see a thread of true possibility. They DO care about each other quite a bit, but they are both letting themselves get in the way of a potentially good thing. Maybe it’s the fact that it’s an intentionally structured project, so it can’t be completely natural. Or, they both really do suck at dating.
Either way, I cannot WAIT to find out what happens in this page turner (clicker?). Check it out and get as totally and irrationally invested as I am so we can all talk about it and unfairly judge them. If anything, you have to find out if they actually have sex, duh!
Heather is a contributing editor at the-dah. She is a Los Angeles based writer, improviser, snacker, social media mistress, and aspiring adult. Read more of her food-stained stories about growing up weird at Terrible-Twenties.com, or follow her digital alter ego @MissHezah on Twitter.
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